From Ashes to Riches

Jun 28, 2017

Do I begin by telling you that things just happen? Or do I start with the fact that sometimes God will make you go through hell and back just to get what He wanted out of you? Either way, I think its fair to say that my marriage wasn't perfect, but then again, what marriage is?

From the ashes
My husband and I first met in July 2012 and I can honestly say that our friendship grew to much more fairly quickly. In November 2012 we began dating and immediately our roller coaster began. Our relationship was a rough one. We went through things that most relationships wouldn't normally go through but we decided to stick together. A year after dating we got engaged and we got married on December 6, 2014. At the beginning of our marriage, it was tough. Living together was something new so we had a lot of adjusting to do. It was hard! But we managed to get by.

On March 16, 2015 we found out were expecting through an at home pregnancy test, but after seeing an OBGYN, they refused to believe I was pregnant. According to them, I had a really big cist. Long story short, I was rushed to the hospital late June and there we found out that I was almost four months pregnant. Unfortunately, my pregnancy turned out to be ectopic so I had to get one of my Fallopian tubes removed along with the fetus.

With all the stress of losing a baby and being out of work for so long, my husband and I began to drift apart. We endured so much pain and instead of coping together, we just didn't cope at all. 

In October 2015, we found out we were expecting again. This time around, God assured me everything would be ok. And it was, for my pregnancy at least. About a month after finding out were were pregnant again, we separated. It was like we became two completely different people after we lost our first baby. You would think that with the pregnancy of this new baby, we would get closer but we didn't. We just continued to drift away. 

He went his way, I went my way.

2016 didn't start off how I'd hoped. I mean, who wants to be pregnant and single (even though I technically wasn't single, but you get what I mean)? It was such a tough year.  Some days I felt like I hated my husband, some days I missed him. And vice versa. And the bad thing about it, is that we expressed those feelings of anger and hatred to each other. It wasn't until one day that I realized who am I kidding? This man was created just for me. He is the father of my daughter. All those thoughts came to my mind. I was sad that my daughter wouldn't have her father in all of her pictures. I was sad that she could possibly have step parents (even though I have two who I adore). I didn't want her to ever have to ask herself, if mami and papi love me so much, why can't they be together?

That's when I challenged God. 

I challenged him to restore my marriage by the end of the year. How crazy was that, lol  VERY. But yea, I did it. I challenge him to restore my marriage because I didn't believe that he could break up a marriage he put together to create another family. I just couldn't get myself to be ok with that.

To Riches
In the beginning of November 2016, God did exactly what I challenged him to do in the beginning of the year. He restored my marriage. We started "dating" again. We spent Thanksgiving together and thats when the news went viral that the Cano's were back together! I was nervous at first because of what people would say, but I realized that no one gave me what I had before, but God. So no one would return that to me, but God. And if God was the only one who could return something that I had lost, then the only opinion that mattered, was God's!

It's been about 9 to 10 months that we have been back together and I am so happy. My daughter has both of her parents with her. She wakes up to see both of us every morning and there is nothing in this world that I would trade over that. We are happy again, thanks to God. And thanks to the prayers of those people that cared enough to fight for my marriage in the spiritual rhelm. 

To Conclude
For those of you going through a similar situation:


Fight for your marriage. Fight for your family. 
I'll be here to help you fight and pray for what is yours!

Kind Regards,


  1. Simply beautiful and all the Glory and Honor to our God! We praise no fool, we praise a ONE TRUE GOD!�� God is love, nuestro Dios es real,maravilloso y misericordioso..
    love you guys! Nada es imposible para nuestro Padre! 🙌🙏

    1. Thank you Mandy :)

      He truly is!!! We love you too.

  2. I love this! Seeing family restored after the enemy has tried to tear it apart is always a beautiful thing to witness. God is faithful! God bless you guys.

  3. Cynthia, this is so beautiful and powerful!! Thank you for telling your story of how God restored your marriage. About 14 years into my marriage, and a nine month separation, God did a similar healing for my husband and I. That was 7 years ago, and I am happy to say that the best years of my marriage have come after I thought there was no hope. (hugs sister)

    1. Thank you Tammy. God is truly amazing. Our marriage has been a beautiful journey since God restored what was broken.

  4. Wow what a miracle. What changed that you were able to live together? Are you able to now openly talk to each other? Would love to hear more!

    1. Hi Britta!

      I believe what changed was the fact that we both opened our hearts to change and allowed God to work in both of us individually. After our reconcilation, e both realized that we loved each other too much not to try anymore because that's exactly what happened and what caused our seperation. We have out our communication in the front of many things and we're learning day by day little things we can do to get better.

      One thing we no longer do is bring up the past.. this was a big issue in our marriage because we were constantly referring back to things we couldn't forget. We have learned how to forgive and not hold onto things.

      Our biggest motivation to do better was our daughter. We did not want our daughter to grow up in a broken family have to have two of everything and split her time every year.

      We are so thankful for what God has done in our lives and what He has done in us as individuals.