Aug 28, 2018

The Lazarus Effect: Two things to know before you give up on who you are

This week has been a week where I have definitely been able to hear God speak to me through His Word. Last Sunday's preaching focused on Lazarus, which is a very well known story but this week I have been able to dig in deeper and allow God to speak to me through it. I want to share with you two things that you need to know in order to continue to grow in who God wants you to be without looking back to your old mistakes and life. Today is your new start, my friend.

We all pretty much know how the story goes so here's quick bullet-type summary:
  • Lazarus was sick
  • Even though Jesus knew he was sick, he didn't go heal him
  • Jesus calls him out of the tomb
I'm going to keep it really short, but if you want to know and study more, go to the Gospel of John, chapter 11 verses 1-43. There, you'll find more details on the trajectory of this story. Now, moving into what I'm so anxious to share. There are so many ways to interpret what's going on here but there are two specific points that I want to focus on.

And when he had thus spoken, he cried with a loud voice, Lazarus come forth. - John 11:43 ASV 


I couldn't help but wonder, why did Jesus call him by name if Lazarus was dead? I mean, in all honesty, He is God; so if He was going to raise someone up from the dead, He could've just said "get up," and Lazarus would've gotten up just as fast. But Jesus was direct with Lazarus. He called Him by name. Why though? It was a question I had to ponder long and hard about, until finally it came to me... Even though Lazarus had died, his never lost his identity. He was still who God said he was even if his body laid there, lifeless. He still had a purpose and that is what Jesus was calling. He wasn't calling the lifeless body, He was calling out the identity and the purpose inside of that body!

In the same way, Jesus calls us directly by our names because we have an identity in Him. We are not dead spiritually. Our passions are not dead. Our desires are not dead. We are who Jesus says we are. There is purpose in our lives. Yes, there are moments when we stumble and question why we were put here on this earth or question if Jesus actually did call us into ministry, but I want to remind you of your identity. You are a child of God and you have a purpose. Don't let nothing and no one try to shake you from that promise. Listen to His voice and hear His call because He is calling you, right now, in this very moment. Yes! Jesus is calling you!


Now, in the second part of the call, Jesus tells him to come forth. He called him into a certain direction. He didn't just say, "Lazarus, wake up," or "Lazarus, come here." He specified in what direction He wanted him to go. I'm sure if He wouldn't have given Lazarus a direction, Lazarus would've woken up, looked at his surroundings, and sat there, confused, thinking about what had just happened and how it happened. But with clarity on where he needed to go, he walked on out of that tomb and into the arms of the one who called him!

Jesus is calling you to move FORWARD! Stop looking back! Stop questioning whether or not you are called. He's calling you today, to move forward, forget the past, and walk into your purpose which lies before you, not behind you. Jesus is clear on where He wants you to go. He wants you stop thinking about all the possibilities, stop thinking about the how's, the why's, the who's and walk out of your dry space and into the life He has predestined for you!

The story of Lazarus is one we can learn so much, but if you learned anything today, make sure you remember the no matter what goes in this world, in your life, your identity is and always will be centered in Christ and it's time to move forward into the divine calling that is over your life.

Xo, Cynthia

[Blog last updated: 6.23.2020]

Aug 10, 2018

The Christian Momma Event: Can Christian Mom's Have It All?, Guest Post by Jessie Synan

As I am trying to type this post on my phone (both my tablet and my laptop aren’t working, and I haven’t even come close to finding time to try to get them fixed) I have my phone in one hand and my four month old in the other. She’s getting teeth, so she there is drool dripping into the hand I’m using to hold her. I have a 3 year old son jumping up and down in front of me asking me for a snack even though he has a perfectly good lunch at the table. 

This is how I usually write blog posts, about one sentence at a time throughout the day (okay...week),but by the time I polish it and show it to the world, the audience never knows.

How often do we do this as mothers? We are trying to handle everything and balance everything. Kids, cleaning, jobs, church activities, sports, laundry...the list goes on and on. It’s so unfair too- the minute I get ahead in one category, I fall behind in all the others. No one knows that I’m multitasking like crazy in private, I try to put my life together so the minute I leave the house I seem like I can do it all, and can have it all. 

As Christian Mother’s...can we have it all? 
Can we find the key to having it all and having a balanced life?

I have seen so many pins on Pinterest about “how to have a balanced life”, or “how to have it all”. While they all have amazing intentions, many times I can keep up the tricks for a week or two, and then it feels like I drop a ball in the juggling act of motherhood again and then it all falls apart.

Should I try to aim for the question “How to have a balanced life?”

Let’s face it. As mothers, we have too much on our plate, and we are fighting everything to have a “balanced life”.

Pastor Brad Barbour of Soul Church in Raleigh, NC said that the idea of trying to have a “balanced life” is all wrong. We are not supposed to have a balanced life, but a prioritized life.

Life is not about doing it all. It is about doing it all for Him. 

How to start living a prioritized life:

By making it all about Him. All the big things, all the trivial things, we need to put Him first and then prioritize everything after that. More often than not, if we put Him first, He will actually prioritize the rest for us. It’s amazing the things we are trying to have “all together” may not be God’s plan at all.

If we start our day in prayer, whether it’s an hour at the table Bible journaling or it’s 30 seconds while under the covers in shock that the morning came so quick, by placing Him first, we can handle whatever life throws at us because we know what our priorities are. 

Before, I felt like I was trying to find this work/home balance. I was trying to find a way to “do it all” as a mom and “do it all” at my job. I felt like I was failing at both.

When I made a commitment to give the first minute of each day to God, that minute changed everything. I prayed “this is our temporary life. Please help me to prioritize loving you, and loving my neighbor as myself”.

I found out that the prayer that I was praying was not a two-part thing, it was a three-part thing. This life isn’t about me, it’s about Jesus. However, to prioritize loving Him, then loving my neighbor as myself, I also had to add a third part: I had to love myself. I had to accept that God loved me enough to give me a specific mission in life, and most likely it wasn’t going to go the way I planned. I was going to have to say yes to Him a lot more, and I was going to have to say no a lot more to this balanced life I was trying to have.

Now my life is without balance. It’s messy. I know who I am. I’m not the Pinterest mom. I’m the Pinterest-fail-so-hard mom that it can’t even be shown on #pinterestfail. I’m also a child of a mom that wasn’t a Pinterest mom, but she had a deep knowledge about life and helping people, and that’s what she passed to me. And that’s what I want to pass on to my kids.

I don’t remember any craft my mom had me do, or how it turned out. But I remember her pulling me out of elementary school early one December afternoon because getting the last present for the “Angel Tree” at church was so much more important than whatever I was supposed to learn at school that day. That’s the day I started to accept Christ in my life, even though I wouldn’t be saved until 2017. My mom had a prioritized life, and I am so thankful for that. I still thought she could do everything and could do no wrong.

So can we have it all? 

Yes, just maybe not the way that you’re thinking. If we prioritize correctly, we can have it all because Jesus is all. 

Meet Jessie Synan

Jessie is a busy mom who plays with her kids during the day and works at night, while blogging on the side. Jessie came back to Christianity after walking away years ago, and now helps people focus on their relationship with God as a priority over their religion. She believes that every story matters. You can always email her at, she would love to hear it!



Aug 9, 2018

The Christian Momma Event: Prayers for your children, Guest post by Jennifer Keathley

Prayer is so much more than a list of things you ask God for. He isn’t our amazon wishlist.. For real though many times I start to pray it sounds so much the same. When I started to see the pattern in my kids little prayers, the light bulb finally went off bright enough I noticed.

I would start with those who needed healing and help. Followed with what I want from my kids that day. Ending with a thanks God for giving us today remark, and then a casual Amen.

But it was my six year old son who made me see the honest failure I had made. The lackluster way I spoke to God it was a view of my belief in him. Yea.. I believe I need to pray but quickly because I have things to get done. When I heard him beg God in his tiny little voice with all his might to be with our neighbors as the kids had lost their grandfather.

It literally shook my soul. I felt those goosebumps we hear about so often with prayer. The power from this little person was obvious. He was full of trust in God and had the faith to believe he was in a conversation with someone who deeply loved him…

I had been doing it all wrong and God had used my son to show me the actual depth prayer can have. I have begun the slow process of taking the me out of my versions of conversation and how they should be with everyone but most especially with God.

Here is a list of deep heartfelt prayers I pray over my children, these prayers have changed my perspective of what I need from my kids and where I am to guide them. It has changed me and my actions. It has made us closer to God.

10 prayers for your children

1. God’s guidance in their lives
Deuteronomy 32:12 - The Lord alone guided them; they
followed no foreign gods.

2. For the overwhelming chance to bless others
Matthew 5:42 - Give to those who ask, and don’t turn away
from those who want to borrow.

3. For generous hearts
Proverbs 11:25 - The generous will prosper; those who refresh others will themselves be refreshed

4. For a kind and gentle soul to share God’s truth
2 Timothy 2:25 - Gently instruct those who oppose the truth. Perhaps God will change those people’s hearts, and they will learn the truth.

5. For courage to face adversity
Acts of the Apostles 27:25 - So take courage! For I believe
God. It will be just as he said.

6. For purity of the heart
Psalms 86:11 -Teach me your ways O Lord, that I may live
according to your truth! Grant me purity of heart, so that I may honor you.

7. For wisdom
James 1:5 - If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and
he will give it you. He will not rebuke you for asking.

8. To love God
Matthew 22:37 - Jesus replied, “You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.

9. A focus on forgiveness
Ephesians 4:32 - Instead, be kind to each other,
tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.

10. For Godly obedience
John 14:15 - “If you love me. Obey my commandments.”

Meet Jennifer Keathley

My name is Jennifer Keathley. I am a 30 year old mother of 11 kids. Number 11 will be here in just a few short weeks. (I didn’t have all those) I am a foster, adoptive, bio, and step mother. I am very happily married, we are taking the time in this relationship to cultivate our intimacy with God first. This has changed everything in my life! I just recently started blogging. I felt called by God to use what’s in my life to reach who I can for him. 



Aug 8, 2018

The Christian Momma Event: Your influence as a Mother is powerful

Your influence as a mother is powerful. Don't waste it. Little eyes are watching you.
I came across this quote on Pinterest when it sparked my interest and made me dig into my Bible. I never really understood how much power and influence went into being a mother, until now, that I am a mother myself. Even then, sometimes, with everything I do on a daily, I forget how important my role is. But regardless if I remember or forget, the role of being a mother is important.

I want to focus on one word that speaks deeply to me.

Influence is the capacity to have an effect on the character, development, or behavior of someone. While power is the capacity or ability to direct or influence the behavior of others or the course of events. It's evident that these two go hand and in hand but what impacts me the most about having both in a position of motherhood is the fact that it can change the course of someone's life based on their character and behavior.

Mom's, I want to ask you this because I had to ask myself:

Who are you influencing your daughters to be?

It may seem like such a simple question but according to Titus 2:4-5, there is a lot we need to teach our daughters, because they have a huge position to fill when they become adults.



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Aug 7, 2018

The Christian Momma Event: 3 Lessons for Mamas from the Story of Hannah, Guest Post by Brianna Martin

For the past several months I’ve been reading my Bible carefully, specifically in search of parenting wisdom. It’s definitely been an interesting journey, so far. If you haven’t read your Bible looking through a parenting lens, I would challenge you to do so! I’ve learned so much already, and I have only gotten through a tiny portion of the Bible this time so far. In fact, I haven’t even technically made it to 1 Samuel yet, but I have had Hannah on my mind ever since my husband preached a great sermon about her several weeks ago. He really got me thinking, and when the opportunity to write this post came up, I knew Hannah had to be featured.

Hannah is one of the more prominent mamas in the Bible, unlike other heroes of mine, the unsung Bible Moms. She’s well-known for one main reason, so chances are that when you think of her, you think of her struggle with infertility. Obviously her inability to conceive a child shaped her life immeasurably, and if you have shared that struggle her story probably resonates with you for that reason. Though I didn’t share Hannah’s struggle, I believe that her story can teach moms of all kinds valuable lessons.  Today I’m sharing the top three lessons I’ve learned from studying Hannah’s story, found in 1 Samuel 1-2.

1. Be Supportive
Hannah and Peninnah were not friends. They were both married to Elkanah, but Hannah couldn’t have kids and Peninnah could. Just that would’ve been bad enough, but Peninnah also took great joy in rubbing Hannah’s inability to conceive in her face. This wasn’t any small thing. It bothered Hannah to the point that she “wept and refused to eat.”

In all fairness, Peninnah may have been treating Hannah badly because of her own pain caused by
Elkanah openly favoring Hannah. But, that’s no excuse. So here’s the lesson: as women (and
especially women of faith), we need to be supportive of each other rather than working to hurt one
another out of our own hurt.

We don’t have the right to pick at other women just because we have our own legitimate
problems and justifiable pain. Often, we don’t know the struggles of the other wives and mothers
around us. I think that we can learn from Hannah and Peninnah that we have nothing to gain from
tearing each other down. As Christians, even if we can’t fully empathize with one another, we should
do our best to sympathize and support the women around us.

2. Pray
Hannah started praying for her son before he was born, which is something I think a lot of Christian parents do. However, she took it a step further and began praying for Samuel before he was even conceived. She prayed, not only to HAVE a child, but prayed specifically FOR her child. Obviously, we can’t go back and do this part all over again, but if you’re considering having more kids, start talking to God about them now, and never quit.

We know that we don’t change God’s heart by praying. He wants what’s best for us all the time, whether or not we talk to Him. However, it’s also clear that God allows our conversations with Him to alter the way His plans are carried out. I truly believe that Hannah’s story would have ended quite differently if she had not been so fervent with her prayers for Samuel.

She didn’t stop praying once Samuel was born, either. In fact, one of her beautiful prayers from after his birth is recorded in scripture. Hannah understood that for her son to be fully given to God, prayer had to be the cornerstone of her parenting strategy. Her example as a prayer warrior is something all mamas should take to heart.

3. Give your kids to God
We all know that children on loan from the Lord. Hannah realized it, but she didn’t just think about it in a trite way. She believed and acted like Samuel, her beloved, prayed-over, longed-for son, really belonged to God.

I don’t know a lot of moms who would willingly hand over their kids as soon as they were weaned, especially to someone who was known to be a terrible parent. But, Hannah kept her word and brought Samuel to the temple to live, even though Eli had a horrible track record with his own sons. They were irreverent troublemakers; exactly what Hannah didn’t want Samuel to become.

BUT, It turns out that Hannah’s faith in God was bigger than Eli’s reputation as a bad dad. Samuel didn’t end up like Eli’s sons, despite the fact that he was raised in the temple within reach of their bad influence. Hannah acted on her beliefs and her unwavering faith paid off.

After reading through Hannah’s story many times and praying over these parenting lessons, I have realized that I need to be more intentional about looking at my children as God’s kids on loan to me. When I think of them that way it changes the way I relate and react to them, and it helps me to clarify my parenting goals by putting my focus back where it belongs. I pray that you, too, will be inspired and encouraged by the example of Hannah, a very special Bible mom!

Meet Brianna Martin

Brianna Martin is a pastor’s wife and an educator. She’s taking a break from teaching to stay at home with her two boys, who are almost 3 and almost 1. Brianna loves reading, has recently begun Bible journaling, and is passionate about family discipleship.


Stay tuned for more tomorrow!

Aug 6, 2018

The Christian Momma Event: Faith Filled Reads to Encourage New Mommas, Guest Post by Traci Street

The moment I found out I was pregnant, I couldn’t wait to get my hands on all the resources I
could to learn about this incredible gift, responsibility, and privilege of being a mama. While I
know it’s true that simply reading books can never fully prepare you for the momentous life
change of welcoming a new baby into the world, I also know that, depending on your personality
type, this kind of preparation can truly help you feel a little less overwhelmed and a little more
like you know what to expect when your world turns upside down upon seeing that beautiful little
new face!

As I’ve been preparing to welcome our baby girl, I’ve read and listened to my fair share of books
about motherhood. While there are lots of good ones out there (and lots of not-so-good ones,
too!), I wanted to share my personal take on just a handful that have been the most meaningful
to me as I am learning and growing into this new mama role. All of them share the common
thread of being faith-based, which is hugely important to my husband and I as we navigate
parenthood - we believe our baby girl is a gift straight from the Lord, that parenthood is a sacred
role ordained by Him, and that if we want to have any shot of getting it right, we have to start
with His Word and His ways as our foundation. With that being said, here are four faith-filled
reads that have encouraged and educated me in my preparation for becoming a new mom. I
hope they’ll provide you with some helpful encouragement, too!

1) The Mission of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson
For gaining a big picture view of God’s beautiful design for motherhood.
This is probably my favorite book on the list - I’m currently reading it for the second time
through. I have loved Sally Clarkson ever since I discovered her book Own Your Life a few
years ago, and now I devour pretty much anything by her that I can get my hands on. If you
don’t know about Sally and her work, she has dedicated her life to two things: the raising of her
children to be strong believers,, and encouraging other moms all over the world that they have
what it takes, in Christ, to do the same. In the Mission of Motherhood, Sally lays out a big
picture, bird’s-eye-view of God’s design for motherhood - kind of like a road map to help us
recognize the key elements of this holy calling that our culture often glosses over or ignores
altogether. This book is a prized resource to me, because it serves as a companion, along with
my Bible, to outline for me the most important things I can do for my kids as a mom: pursuing a
thriving relationship with Christ, and modeling what that looks like to my kids, so they in turn can
know that kind of true, abundant life. It has both practical suggestions and broad, sweeping
ideals, and I love the balance she strikes between the two.

2) Heavenly Minded Mom by Katie Bennett
For building and strengthening your own spiritual foundations as a mom.
I was honored to be part of the launch team for this book when it came out back in April, and it
exceeded my expectations beyond any devotional I have ever read before. I don’t often love or
recommend devotionals to people, simply because they often lack the depth and feel too
surface-level and generic. But this devotional is so grounded in Biblical truth! It doesn’t sugar
coat things, it doesn’t stick to cute, trite examples - and it goes much deeper than getting through the day to day life as a new mom dealing with little ones. It focuses more on your heart
before the Lord and your view of eternity in your life as a whole. Rather than skimming the
surface, it takes you on a deep dive to really examine your heart, your motives, and where you
are in your walk with the Lord, and how that relates to your role as a mom. I love that this book
serves as kind of an anchor to help me not get swept away in the excitement of pregnancy and
motherhood - it reminds me that while this journey is incredible and a holy calling, motherhood
is only one piece of a much bigger complete picture when it comes to our faith, and we must
daily dig in to God’s truth to keep painting that picture with Him.

3) Mom Set Free by Jeannie Cunnion
For getting free from the burden of mom guilt that looms over us all.
The most meaningful thing I took from this book is that we all have a free pass releasing
us from any and all mom guilt, forever! Why? Because if you are a mama whose identity is
founded in Christ, and who believes likewise that your children are created by, belong to, and
made for Christ, then you understand that ultimately, parenting your kids is not a test of how
perfectly you make them behave, how Pinterest-worthy their little outfits and/or birthday parties
are, or whether or not you choose to (insert ANY controversial parenting topic here) with your
kids. Mom Set Free reminded me that my job as a mom is to seek to be faithful to the Lord with
what He’s given me, and to trust Him, knowing that He is the one ultimately in control, not me.
Even before baby girl’s arrival, I have already felt that precious truth taking some of the weight
of expectations off me that I was putting onto myself, thinking of all the right things I “should”
make sure I do for her. The most important thing I can do for her is to trust God, with my life and
hers! He is in charge, and He is good. I’m thankful for how this book reminds me of that.

4) The Baby Companion: A Faith-Filled Guide for Your Journey Through Baby’s First
I happened upon this book at a used bookstore about halfway through my pregnancy, and was
so delighted with my discovery! This handy guide is similar to a lot of “baby’s first year” books, in
that it gives you an overview of what to expect practically in those early days- but I love that it
does it from the perspective of pediatricians and baby experts who also share my faith in Christ
and believe that God should be at the center of your parenting from day one. Having this kind of
practical, real-life information in an easy-to-use resource guide, coupled with faith-based
wisdom and reminders to trust in and seek the Lord for what you need during these crazy
newborn days, has been such a blessing to me. I’ve only perused the book so far and haven’t
read it cover to cover, but I foresee myself referencing it a lot in the coming days as I”m learning
the ins and outs of how to take care of our new baby girl during our first year at home together!

So there you have it! I know there are tons of great resources out there, and any number of
baby books can be helpful in starting out your journey as a Christian mama. I hope these few
favorite picks of mine give you a good starting point for helpful reads to check out as you
navigate your own faith-filled journey as a new mom! Above all, remember that the Lord is
faithful and He will supply you with all you need! You got this, mama!


Meet Traci Street

Traci is a lifestyle blogger who has blogged her way through several life changes - including the transition from her former career as a pediatric speech therapist to a natural beauty store manager and back again - and, most recently, her transition to a full-time SAHM (and currently staying-at-NICU) to her preemie baby girl! These days you can usually find her with a Bible in one hand, and a big cup of coffee in the other (and a baby snuggled in between as often as possible) as she seeks to navigate this new adventure of motherhood while soaking up God's grace. 



Aug 5, 2018

The Christian Momma Event: 5 Experiences You'll Have as a Parent, Guest Post by Aminata Coote

Eleven years ago my life changed forever. My son came screaming into the world. Really, the child came
out crying. All the movies that I had seen up to that point gave the impression that babies had to be
slapped before they cried. But nope, this one came out screaming as if to say, “How dare you disturb

Over the past decade or so I’ve learned a few things about what it means to be a parent. I’ll share five of
them with you:

1. You will have to do the disgusting things. Yes, the nose wiping, butt-cleaning, washing the poop out
of all the things kinda things. Babies are messy. I once had to clean poop off a wall three feet away from
where he lay on the bed. What can I say? It was a projectile. I was lucky to get out of the way in time.

2. You will see all your best traits amplified. You will see all your worst traits intensified. My son reflects
the things that my husband and I do well. He also personifies all of our most negative character traits.

As you parent a miniature version of yourself, you have to do so with grace. He may have your traits but
he is not you. Remember that. Children are unique individuals. They have their own destiny. And that
destiny is not the same as yours.

Will it scare you when they make choices that you would have advised against? Yes.

Especially when it appears as though they are going down a path that you believe leads to failure. But
you learn that just as how God allowed you to make choices, you have to permit them to make theirs

3. You will realize that you have a lot more patience than you realized. And a lot less patience than you
need. They will try your patience. But God does this gracious thing for you: He keeps expanding the
boundaries of your patience. Every time you think you’ve run out… He gives you a little more.

4. A lot of your habits will change. Before my son was born I could sleep through the loudest sound
system playing outside my door – as long as I was asleep before it started. Now, if the tiniest toy falls I’m
instantly awake as my mind tries to figure out what my ears heard.

5. You are going to have to learn to trust God. This starts when you realize that you’re pregnant and
never goes away. During my pregnancy, I heard a few horror stories about women who had to deliver
dead babies. It made me realize that as much technology as we have access to, we still don’t know what
goes on in the womb.

Only God does and that’s why we have to trust Him. We have to learn that He loves our baby even more
than we do. And that He’s the best one to take care of them. This becomes even more true after the
baby is born. We learn that we can’t protect them from everything, especially as they get older and
start to explore the world.

There are a quadrillion other things you experience as a parent. What’s your most memorable thing?


Meet Aminota Coote

Aminata Coote is a wife, mother, author and follower of Jesus Christ. She is passionate about helping
women to run their race. She encourages women to first know God, then know themselves while getting
on with the business of running their race.



Aug 4, 2018

The Christian Momma Event: Reasons why you should read Scripture to your toddler

My husband retreated this past weekend and I couldn't help but feel a little lonely. I had my daughter with me, but with daddy away, it just felt too quiet. Before bed, I decided to get some reading done. Initially I was going to grab my personal book, 'You Are Free' but instead, something prompted me to grab my daughters children's Bible.

As I started reading, I grabbed Mali and sat her on my lap. Naturally, she started moving around and getting fussy so after a few minutes, I let her crawl around; of course though, my child would find a bag of veggie chips and start eating, but I kept on reading. Mali continued wandering around the room while I was reading when suddenly I felt the Spirit of God tell me to keep doing it because although it may seem like she was not actively listening or paying attention, her spirit was being fed and was receiving the nutrition it needed. That was when I learned that although Mali may not understand or even pay attention for that matter, to what I was reading to her, there was something deeper inside of her that was being fed.

Her spirit.

Recently I read in a Bible reading plan that the spirit and the soul are two complete opposites. According to Holy Emotions - Biblical Responses to Every Day Challenges:



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Aug 3, 2018

The Christian Momma Event: Self-Care for Mommies: Easy Ways to Make Yourself a Priority, Guest Post by Ashley Guntle

Self care is a dirty word, isn’t it? When you are a mommy, there is just no time for yourself! We have
kids to comfort, husbands to love, dishes to wash, laundry to run, bathrooms to clean, dinners to cook, a
perfect image to keep up….. Well, here are a few things you need to know about self-care and some
easy ways to put yourself back on top again.

Let’s start with a little story, shall we? A few times a year, this mommy gets sick. When I get sick, it’s
usually a doozy. Dishes and laundry pile up, the kids don’t get baths, and everything plus everyone is
stinky. But every single time I get sick, I lie on the couch thinking of all the things I have to be doing but
can’t be doing! It drives me insane! I can’t even rest when my body is physically keeping me down!

It’s always a striking reminder to me that I need to take care of myself regularly. If I spent more time
resting, prioritizing my life, and handing off a few things to my hubby, I wouldn’t get sick as much.
Not getting sick means I can accomplish my daily to dos and lose the anxiety that comes with not being
able to do the things I have to do.
"And He said to them, "Come aside by yourselves to a deserted place and rest for a while.' For there were many coming and going, and they did not have time to eat." - Mark 6:31
God even speaks of the importance of self-care in the Bible! Jesus often took care of his spiritual needs
by finding space away from others and praying. God even provides us with direction in taking care of

He tells us how to take care of our bodies, minds, and spirits in order to live a peaceful and fulfilling life.
He also stresses the importance of spending time with Him to have a constant reminder of who we are
and who we were meant to be in Christ.
"Now in the morning, having risen a long while before daylight, He went out and departed to a solitary place, and there He prayed." Mark 1:35

Lately, the less time I give to myself on purpose starts to become more time I give to myself by
accident. I am exhausted (because 2 kids and running a household is a lot for one person!) which
means I slow down, fall asleep on the couch, and choose to watch TV so I can stop using my brain for a

But if I prioritize and schedule time for myself, life runs so much more smoothly. I choose to take better
care of myself physically, I am a much nicer person to be around, and I feel happier. All of these
good feelings lead to good feelings in my family. It also leads to more work getting done because I have
the energy.

Odd concept, right? Make time for the things you enjoy and get more work done? Whaaa??
"Or do you not know that your body is the temple of Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God's." - 1 Corinthians 6:19-20

It’s true! Here are a few easy ways to make yourself a priority and help your life run super
smoothly. Now, I say easy because if you can follow a schedule, these tips are easy. But here’s the
thing….someone has to do the scheduling. *gasp*

All you have to do is schedule the time you would like for yourself and follow that schedule. Easy
enough, right? I know you can do it, and I believe in you guys! So let’s begin.

Take breaks throughout the day
Some days are really rough, and those “sleeping baby” breaks that are usually filled with doing dishes or
folding laundry are soon filled with mommy eating Cheetos on the couch watching Gossip Girl. This is no
help to anyone, and it only pushes the chores further behind than they are already. But if you pick a few
days a week when you can let the dishes sit a little longer so you can have a mental vacation, it will be
worth it. You will feel more refreshed when your babes wake up, and you won’t feel guilty about it.
Plus, since your break is planned, you can get everything you need to get done at a different point in

Eat right and exercise
This may seem like some kind of doctor’s tip, but let me tell you, I am much more energetic and on point
when I have been eating healthier meals and exercising. I do have to schedule my exercising, though,
and that can be challenging. Lately, when hubby gets home, I take 30 minutes to exercise. Sometimes, I
strap baby to me for an added workout. Some days I take a walk with the kids so my husband doesn’t
have to watch the kids all of the time. I take pleasure in the fact that I am releasing pent up anxiety
from the day, but also, I am showing my kids that exercising is important. Hey, if I can be a role model
and have me time, I’m sold!

Get as much sleep as you can
I’m not going to lie, this one is difficult for me. It is so important to me because it is the one area I have
always been high maintenance in. If I don’t get my 8 hours, you may want to cancel our afternoon
playdate….just sayin’. I find I am more irritable, judgmental, and just no fun without a good amount of
sleep. The thing is, we have a 4 month old and a toddler. There’s not a ton of sleeping going on
anyways. I have noticed lately that when baby sleeps well, instead of going to bed, I want to stay up and
spend time with hubby or watch my favorite TV show! This isn’t a bad thing, unless it’s every night. But
when I indulge every night, I begin to notice I am more on edge and don’t feel as motivated to run after
the boys If I just put myself to sleep a little earlier some nights, the next day runs more smoothly, and I
tend to have more energy.

Take 30 minutes a day to yourself
When we first had our second kiddo, I started making me a priority. This was mostly due to the fact that
I was exhausted all of the time. Thirty minutes for me became a great way to renew myself when my
hubby got home. He got to spend time with the kids by himself, and I got some time to do whatever I
wanted. Bath anyone? How about reading a good book? What would you do if you had 30 minutes to
yourself every day? This seems like a wild thing to think about, doesn’t it? If you feel like every day is
too much, start out taking 30 minutes for you three days a week or whatever you and hubby feel
comfortable with. I’m telling you, it will change the way you view your life.

Schedule time for friends
Friends are everything! They support us when we are down and keep us afloat when we are drowning.
We oftentimes lose our time with our buds when we have kids. It’s just exhausting thinking about
grabbing a drink with a friend after a long day of playing Legos. When hubby gets home, we all just want
to pass out, right? But hear me out. Relationships are important. We can do life alone, but we
shouldn’t. Friends are there for the good times and the bad times. Relating to others is a large part of
who we are as women! Don’t let that go! Get together with them as often as you can for constant
renewal! If that is one night a week, go for it. If you can only get together with the kids, something is
better than nothing. It’s just important that you try. Your life and the quality of your kids’ lives depend
on it.

Date nights
I love date nights, but they can be super hard to schedule! First, they can get expensive with babysitter,
dinner, and activity costs. Second, when do we have the time? Maybe the baby is sick, we are
exhausted, we can’t find a sitter, or we have other obligations! By far, this is one of the toughest ways
to make yourself a priority on a consistent basis, but I am telling you, it will completely change your
marriage if you make it happen. When we have kids, there is no time to get to know our partner or
continue the discussion about hopes and dreams. Most of all, there’s no time for sex (or good sex ha!)
without date night. Plus, who doesn’t want to have fun with their husband? Take the initiative, surprise
your spouse, and start planning your date nights. Read about what it can do for your marriage here

Write down your goals and add those to your schedule
It’s so important not to lose our hopes and dreams when we become a mom. We need to focus some
on ourselves and on making ourselves better people. That only comes from dreaming and making goals
for your life. Living is about learning new things and accomplishing new activities. You may not see
scheduling goals as being an integral part of your happiness, but accomplishing goals makes you feel
powerful. It’s your success from all of the hard work you put in. Not only that, but it’s a way we can
model reaching goals for our children! Two birds, one stone!

Take small moments to clear your mind
These smaller activities are what we typically think of when we start to taking care of ourselves. They
are still important because every second counts. The rest of the tips will help you build a solid
foundation for putting yourself first. This tip helps you fill the in-between times with rest and relaxation.
When you don’t have time to set goals, take a date night, or have 30 minutes to yourself, these are the
activities to do to keep yourself sane in the crazy. Check out the activities on the list below to help
rejuvenate yourself after a rough day because, let’s be honest, we have plenty of those…

1. Take the scenic route home and experience nature
2. Take a bath with scented candles
3. Clean the kitchen to release the stress of the day
4. Take a dance class with a friend
5. Take a walk
6. Read a favorite magazine
7. Buy a yummy treat
8. Buy a cute top, shoes, etc.
9. Get a cute haircut
10. Get a relaxing massage or pedicure
11. Meditate
12. Cook a fancy meal with your husband
13. Get dressed up to go nowhere
14. Hike
15. Visit the pool or sauna
16. Practice some yoga
17. Play with puppies at a pet shop
18. Go fishing
19. Paint some pottery with a friend
20. Watch your favorite movie

Your schedule may be filling up with you time, friend time, and family time, but this is a good thing!
You are making yourself a priority and sometimes that involves scheduling yourself into your own life!
It can feel selfish and as if we are thinking too much about ourselves. Try to think of it this way:
mommies (and sometimes, daddies) run the home, take care of the kids, and keep the status quo. We
are the most important value in keeping our family life flowing successfully, just like the heart so

easily pumps blood to so many different organs in our body. You wouldn’t forget to take care of your
heart or think it’s selfish to do so.

So, hunny, jump on the bandwagon. Make yourself a priority so you can thoroughly enjoy your family
and your life.


Meet Ashley Guntle

Christian blogger Ashley Guntle desires to encourage, support, and inspire women through different stages of their lives. Through her blog, Legos & Leftovers, Ashley creates a warm and inviting atmosphere where women are inspired to step into the life that God intended for them and encouraged to share their personal stories of parenting, cooking, faith, and womanhood. She completed her Masters in Art Therapy but started writing for her blog in order to stay home with her children.