Jan 29, 2019

Netflix & Chill: My favorite shows to binge watch!

Who doesn’t love to Netflix and Chill? I absolutely love it - when I get the time. With two little ones, hubby and I barely get time to watch what we want on television or Netflix for that matter. Literally, our two year is obsessed with Coco and The Grinch. And of course, two year olds rule the world, so she gets to watch whatever she wants when she wants. KIDDING! 

The last time I netflixed and chilled was back in October. It was a Saturday morning and we decided to drop  everything and just stay home. My daughter had dance class that morning and we played hookie. We skipped laundry, dishes and cooking dinner (thank God for Door Dash) and we literally binge watched the the whole first season of Switched at Birth. Honesty, it was the best weekend I have had in such a long time. We hung out with the girls, laid a bunch of blankets and pillows on the floor and just relaxed! If you haven’t tried a weekend like that, I highly encourage you to hurry up and take one!! It’s so good for the soul. No, really! It is! 

Here’s a list of the top 4 shows I have enjoyed binge watching and still am currently watching! They are in no type of order! Can you guess which ones were picked by me and which ones my husband picked out? Come on! Take a good guess!! 

Switched at Birth
This show has me absolutely obsessed! It’s about two teeanage girls who find out they were at witches at birth and their parents aren’t really their parents. After that their whole lives are changed! I really like this show because it has a variety of characters. It was Hispanic character, deaf characters, and even characters who are portrayed in the show as a lesser class. It’s so diverse but even in its diversity, somehow, everything and everyone fits! 

If you like TV dramas then this is definitely the show for you! This is the first show I binge watched since maybe 2 or 3 years ago and it literally had me losing sleep! It’s about a mega church lead by Bishop Greanleaf and his family, the sins that go on in the church, and the family drama they experience. I liked this show because in some ways, it’s a lot like things that actually happen within the church walls that not everyone knows about. Please don’t misunderstand what I’m saying and think that I applaud sin in the church. I don’t. But do I like this TV drama? I do. It’s definitely a show that will keep you on top of your toes!

My husband is a huge comedy person! When he first found this show and asked me to watch it with him, I said yes just to make him happy, (true story). I wasn’t really feeling, even though I do like comedy but I hadn’t seen Marlon do anything on TV for a while. I honesty thought it was going to be dumb. But it’s a really good show! We laughed a lot watching this. The show is about Marlon and his ex-wife co-parenting their kids and just living life. We found it very interesting that some of the references that were made in the shows script were actual current events.

Life Unexpected
This was first shows I actually binge watched! It's about a 15 year girl who is in foster care all her life and one day decides she wants to get emancipated. But in order to do that, her biological parents needed to sign the papers for her. So she went on a search for her biological parents and to her surprise, her mother was the radio host she listened to every morning and her father was a a regular single guy. Now that she meets her biological parents, her whole world changes! 

What shows are you binge watching? Please share down in the comments!

Jan 23, 2019

Have you been hurt by "the church"? Then read this!

I woke up Wednesday morning, got ready for work, got the girls ready and then sat down for a cup of coffee and some devotional time. As I read my Bible plan, I couldn’t help but mediate on the fact that I felt like I had lost my identity in Christ. I was reading the Bible everyday, I recited a short prayer here and there but I had no motivation or passion for what I was doing anymore.

For the last few months I have question God and even found myself in shouting matches with him when I was home alone, no kids and no husband. I would yell at Him and question why He put me through what I went through. I would stomp, shout, cry, and stomp some more. No one knew what I was going through. No one even knew of this until now, because I’m sharing this with you. And I will probably receive some backlash for this, but when the Holy Spirit speaks something to your soul, don’t hold back because of fear of what others will say. 

Before I decided to write this, I found myself questioning how I lost my identity because of what I went through. Not that what I went through caused me to lose it. No. I allowed for my circumstance to dictate who I was in Christ. 

Jan 15, 2019

Building Character in Your Child

Before becoming a mom, I wasn't sure that I would be such a great mother. I had no idea what I would actually teach my child or how. I was scared because I wanted to be a good example to my kids of the perfect christian and I wasn't sure that I fit that description.f

And I don't.

There is no such thing as the perfect christian. But there is such a thing as dedicating your life to live more and more like Christ everyday. And when you seek to live more and more like Christ, you learn your position and significance as a mother, even if you're not a perfect one. Every since then, I have studied on motherhood with the best book yet. The Holy Bible. This book as taught me some great things but something I will never forget is a devotional I did about building Character in your children. For 14 days, I learned a new character trait that I should be instilling in my kids and I want to share those with you today. Here they are!

  • Integrity
  • Courage
  • Compassion
  • Generosity
  • Resourcefulness
  • Personal Responsibility
  • Respect
  • Tenacity
  • Discernment
  • Purity
  • Humility
  • Servanthood
  • Forgiveness
  • Gratitude

These are all great character traits for your kids to learn, but I want to focus on just 3 of these that really stuck out to me the most. Compassion. Generosity. Gratitude.

"We all want to raise kids who are overflowing with compassion for the weak, the lowly, the suffering. Some kids seem to have it naturally. But even if compassion isn't a nature gift, it is something that can be developed by learning to identify someone's emotional or physical needs and how to appropriately meet them. Here are a few ways to develop compassion in your children:

  1. Serve each other. Family should bee our first ministry. The compassion we have for others should be practiced in the home, as well. 
  2. Serve outside the home. Remember, you are setting the standard by which your children are learning compassion, so you must get involved in service, as well. 
  3. Practice compassion as a daily habit. What does compassion look like in the the day to day? Sometimes it looks like forgiveness. It might look like kindness when someone is unlovable. Or maybe it is inviting a new family at church over to dinner."
The Lord is like a father to his children, tender and compassionate to those who fear him. - Psalms 103: 13

"Most Americans won't consider themselves wealthy. But even the poorest person in the U.S. is wealthier than 99 percent of the world. When God sees the poor in America, He sees rich people, and He has given us responsibilities. Here are some things parents can do to foster generosity:

  1. Be a model of generosity. Give to the homeless. Contribute to natural disaster funds. Put extra in the offering plate. 
  2. Encourage your children to be generous with each other. Teach them, for example, to share their toys-that's the lesson you'll need to emphasize over and over.
  3. Encourage kids to give away their own toys and clothing. Each year, go through their toys and say, Lets give away 5 toys that you don't use anymore (and maybe it's more than five). Remove all clothing that is too small. Then brainstorm organizations that need your items.
  4. Encourage Sunday school offering. Have them tithe their allowance, or provide money. It makes a big impression that you would offer your hard-earned money to give away.
  5. Praise generosity when you see or experience it. Write thank you notes for money given by grandparents and gifts from friends. Point out times when friends gave clothes and other household items to you. And be sure to praise your kids when they are generous."
You must each decide in your heart how much to give. And don't give reluctantly or in response to pressure. For God loves a person who gives cheerfully. - 2 Corinthians 9:7

"Share with them what you yourself thanked God for today. Tell them how grateful you are that God placed the blessings and the struggles in your life. Be an example of true gratitude to your children by taking off a heart of complaint and putting on a heart of praise. Your children will that Christian thanksgiving isn't just a bunch of words. It's a condition of the heart."
Let us come to him with thanksgiving. Let us sing psalms of praise to Him. - Psalms 95:2

To read more of this devotional, go to www.youversion.com and find the Building Character in Your Child reading plan. You wont regret it!

Do you have suggestions on character traits that you think we should be building in our kids that was not on this list? Please share it below!

Jan 1, 2019

I choose to Declutter!

Oh gosh, I feel as though just yesterday we entered 2018 with a bang, and here we are, just hours into 2019. Happy New Year, my friend! If you have been following me on social media, you know that I took a break from blogging - I actually posted about it a few months ago (check it out here). I needed some time to regroup and relaunch because I didn't feel like my blog was going the route that I wanted it to go. I was blogging, yes, but I was sort of just trying to keep up with some of the blogs I follow on different blogging groups. My heart wasn't in anymore. So I decided to stop for while so that I could encounter God and experience His guidance in this ministry.

Last year, my focus was Happiness. How did that go, you ask?

The first 8 months went great. I really did focus on being happy no matter what. I definitely went through some things but I always remained positive and reminded myself that my circumstance did not determine my happiness - I determined it. But the last four months really took a toll on me. I experienced change. And we all know that change is often times hard to deal with and accept. It took about 2 months for me to accept the changes occurring in my life. I was angry. I let my circumstances take out the worst in me, until one day, I had an encounter with God. In that moment of that encounter, the people around me prayed for healing over me, they prayed for a new mind and a new heart. And today, I can honestly say that God was the midst of those changes and I'm thankful, because I know He is taking me to new levels and I'm ready for what He has for me and my family.

D E C L U T T E R .

Google defines declutter as the removal of unnecessary items from an untidy or overcrowded place. I won't be decluttering anything materially, but I am determined to declutter and remove everything that does not belong in my heart, in my mind, and in my life. Sometimes we are so wrapped up on the things that are going on around us and we are so overwhelmed with keeping up with the people we are close , and we tend to push God to the side. It happens to all of us. But I want to bounce back from that this year.

In 2019, I will be focusing on decluttering and getting closer to God because my life doesn't depend on being surrounded by a bunch of people, no. My life depends solely on God. He is the giver of my life and my salvation and I don't want to lose either because I put my focus on something or someone that could not give me what He could give me.

Do you have a word for 2019? Share your word with me down in the comments, and let me know why you chose to focus on that word this year!