3 Ways to be a God-Given Companion to Your Husband

May 7, 2019
We always talk about how you can be a great SAH mom, but what being a great SAH wife? Being a  wife is much more than just being married and having kids with the man you love. It's deeper than that. There is so much responsibility that goes into it. And because of that, today I want to share with you, three biblical ways you can be a God-given companion to your man.



Be his helper


The Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make him a helper suitable for him." - Genesis 2:18
 Wives, we were created to be helpers to our husbands, not to criticize  how much or little they work. Our responsibility as their helpers is to make things easier for them, not harder, and definitely not more stressful. Some men are the only providers for their household and some men get help with having working wives. And that's great, but today we're focusing on how a SAH wife can be a help to her man. Here are some ways you can help him be more productive for work.

  • Prep his lunch the night before
  • Have dinner ready to serve when he gets home
  • Wash all of his work uniforms Sunday nights (or the day before his work week begins)
  • Maintain a clean and decluttered home
Let's make something clear before we continue on with this blog post: I am by no means saying that because you are a SAH wife/mom that you need to become your husbands maid. That's not what I mean at all. But when you look at it from a biblical point of view, this is what we were created to do. A helper takes some of the load off of the worker to give them space to do more of the harder work. And that's what we should be doing. Not making them feel extra stress at the end of the day, by having to wash their own clothes, figure out what they're gonna eat for dinner, prep their own lunches for the next day, etc. By helping our men in this manner, this helps them get some good rest, helps them relieve work stress, and helps them have a better and more productive morning (I know from first-hand experience).


Be his comforter

Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother, Sarah, and he married Rebekah. So she became his wife, and he loved her; and Isaac was comforted after his mothers death. - Genesis 24:67
 I bet you're thinking: "how can I comfort him if he doesn't even tell me whats wrong?".  Great point... but! You have to understand that a lot of men are not in tune with their emotions as much as women are, and they don't know how to express what they feel. I have a question I want you to meditate on.

How kind and patient are you with your man? (read 1 Corinthians 13:4) 

I ask you this because sometimes we can be a little harsh on them when they open up just tad for being too vulnerable. Ladies!! Make him feel safe! Make him feel like he can open up to you without you judging whether he cries or not, without you criticizing what he's upset about. He just needs to know that he is in a safe place with you where he can go to you (besides God) to seek comfort. If he doesn't get that from you, he will shut you out, and we want to avoid that. Communication is very important in your marriage, in every marriage. But it's all about providing a safe environment to the other person.

Be his encourager

She brings him good, not harm, all the days of his life. - Proverbs 21:12
When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. - Proverbs 31: 26
 Did you read and re-read it? You should. I had to. Her words are wise. That means the the Proverbs 31 woman, seeks wisdom before opening her mouth. I think a mistake that every woman does, myself included, is that we are too quick to respond and not all the time, is that response the correct one. Men go through things just as we do. And just as we want to hear a word of encouragement, they need to hear too. Something to remember is that our tongues hold a lot of power them and we don't want to declare the wrong thing over our husbands.
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. - Proverbs 18:21
It's extremely important that we cover our husbands in daily prayer while they are out working and when they come home, that we have nothing but blessed words to tell them. I can't tell you how many times, because of lack of prayer, I wasn't able to encourage my husband the way that he needed, and because of that, we had bigger problems. Today, I've learned and understood the power of praying over my husband, and praying for wisdom so that every word that comes out of my mouth and is directed to my husband, produces nothing but life.

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Sis, I'm praying this has ministered to you as much as it did to me. I want nothing more for you than to have a healthy and God-centered marriage. Continue doing what you're doing and then do more. No extra effort is wasted effort. Comment below if this was for you and be sure to pin it to your marriage folder using the image below and share it with your friends.


14 comments

  1. Thank you so much for sharing this!!! <3

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  2. Wow such a wonderful read! Our relationship with our husband is one of our most meaningful relationships on this earth. We have to do our best to nurture it! Thank you for sharing your tips!

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    1. Yes I totally agree. Our marriage is definitely the most important relationship we need to nurture.

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  3. Sometimes just reminding myself of these simple things helps me. Thank you

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    1. I think It’s a constant reminder for everyone. It takes a lot of effort and intention to make a marriage work.

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  4. Some of these things I've learned to do even though we both work. Mostly finding out what really "puts in his tank" by his love language.

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    1. I completely agree. I used to be work full-time just a few months ago and still cultivated these habits into our everyday life

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  5. This is a great article! It is so important to encourage and pray for our husbands. We can be such a positive influence in their lives.

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    1. No, thank YOU for taking time out to read my post.

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  7. Thanks so much for sharing it was awesome! Thx! I needed that! Sometimes I'm too tired to encourage and haven't been walking in love since I need be working full time and taking care of house and everything while he recoveries from surgery and another one on its way. I know I need ficus on Jesus and be a better mate does matter if I'm doing both for awhile. But, my mouth does want say I wish you could have gotten supper ready or mowed for me. I got encourage and walk in love.

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    1. I completely understand. It’s hard to cultivate healthy habits as these when your daily life seems to be chaotic or overwhelming due to life’s circumstances but with Christ ALL things are possible. It’s so important to remain focused on Christ despite going through hard times because it is only through Him that we will be able to make it through with peace of mind.

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